It sits there, mounted on white gold that encircles Ciwi’s finger. A stone renowned for its hardness, rarity and value. Apart from looking flipping amazing, what’s the big deal. Is it not just another piece of bling? So much of society, church and secular makes such a huge deal about this single piece of jewelry. While colour, clarity, cut and carat are not the be all and end all (although the media, jewelry stores and sometimes fiancées may suggest otherwise), the ring is not just a throwaway purchase. As with the decision, question and direction that it represents, the purchase requires extensive consideration. This is something you only ever plan to do once. If you’re going to do it, you need to do it right. A ring speaks volumes and must be accompanied by the appropriate process
How to do it?
- Step One: get her to choose the ring! (Unglamorous, affects the surprise, but genetics dictate that I am not the expert in things that are shiny… God forbid she look down at her hand and think, “it’s a nice gesture, but he has *horrible* taste!”)
- Step Two: recover from spending so much money on something so small
- Step Three: the moment that the ring appears and slides onto her finger for the first time will stay with her for the rest of her life. *DON’T* screw it up!
- Step Four: marry her as quickly as possible! 🙂
That’s about it really! The ring is a representation of how much you value the person you are asking to tie themselves to you. If you go about this lightly, what does that say about the value you place upon her? It says, “I want you to be mine and mine alone… I am serious about this and I’m not messing around. Whenever you look at your finger, you’ll be reminded of the fact that you are loved, valued and cherished above all else (plus it’s really pretty when it sparkles!).”